Toxic co-workers

There you are, going to work as usual, and suddenly your co-worker is behaving very differently, and I mean, in a way that is derogatory towards you and others.


Since this is a change, naturally you give him a chance to let it pass, hoping all will return to a better flow.


It doesn't.  So, what do you do?  First, I would ask him how things are in his personal life.  It may be that he needs to talk about it.


Most of the time people's behaviour is not really personal.  There are myriad things in their life they are thinking about.  An illness, a death, divorce, some big decisions about finances, or schooling for the kids. If the person is new to your workplace, give them a break. There is a learning curve to being in a new group.


If the atmosphere is still bad and affecting you badly, you can take action energetically. I would do this process at home.


Breathe, and breathe again. Start to spin your chakras. Go through each one and visualize any negative energy spinning off into the atmosphere. Literally shit hitting the fan.


First chakra, base of the spine; second, below the belly button; third, solar plexus; fourth, heart chakra; fifth, at the throat; sixth in the forehead; and seventh above your head.


Be thorough. Be brutal kicking this person's energy out. Be clear with yourself this is what you are doing.  Then slow the spinning down and begin to spin the other way, if you like, letting any hidden gunk fly off. Then spin clockwise again.


Gently spin your chakras and bring in light from above. You could use the rainbow chakra colors.  Place a healthy color in each chakra. Red at first, orange at second, yellow at third, green at the heart, turquoise at the throat, indigo at the forehead and purple/white at the crown.


Now, bring in white light from your crown and let it flood your whole body, all the chakras, and your aura.  Let it be purifying, scorchingly bright, to further clear any remnants of the energy you don't want or need.


Now, put up a reflective surface on the outside of your aura.  Like a mirror, foil, armor of some sort that will protect you and cause any negative energy thrown at you to bounce off and go back to the person directing it at you.


Be grounded, centered and do your job very well. Be neutral, be Switzerland, I always say.  Hopefully this uncomfortable time will pass, the circle will turn again and all will be well. So many things do.


However, if the situation still is not good, you may start looking to transfer your job to another area, somehow shift where you are.


The  other, most effective thing you can do to get rid of a toxic person  is to pray that their situation improves, that they get a better job or opportunity somewhere else.  This has worked for me in the past like a dream.


If you change jobs and find yourself in another toxic relationship with a co-worker-  stop-  guess what?  It's you! you might be the toxic one or something in you is pulling in these situations.  Get thee to a counselor!  Most workplaces have them.  Figure out what is askew with you, you are totally capable of doing so.


We are all mirrors to each other, remember, so always have compassion for yourself and others.  We all need to heal so we can live and work with joy and in good health. So, blessings to all, I hope this helps. Namaste- Lia

News

It's been awhile. A new meditation will be up soon.  I have been busy putting something up on Kindle entitled, The Dreamvine.
This came to me all at one sitting years ago, sort of a zen fairy tale.  It has alot of personal meaning to me and now I will see if anyone else enjoys it, too. I suspect it may appeal to young adults particularly. I would love to see it semi-animated one day.  Anyway, it's 0.99! (It is rather short.)


This was a nice learning curve for me.  I may publish a book with most of the blogs in it someday, now that I got the hang of it.  Amazon has a great system for self-publishing.


So, til next time- Namaste, Lia

Honoring Christmas's Past

Christmas is such an emotional time, it can really sneak up on you. Everyone around me had a cold.  I felt a lump in my throat for days and thought I was just fighting it off.

Then today I  started crying- ahh, the feeling in the throat was unexpressed grief.  Friends dying, missing my parents and other family members, regrets for certain life decisions, all came crashing down.

Well, I feel better now having cried.  "All Things Must Pass"- that truth brings grief but also joy that life goes on.  All energy recombining into new beauty with the past worked into it.

You just can't see how everything will turn out, blank spots, blind spots, forks in the road. 

The future radiates out from all moments- as many paths from this moment as rays from a star.

All I can do is ask for guidance and trust, gratefully, in that.

Moments of clarity, of bliss, and moments of despair.  That's life, I guess.  Opening to this moment is all we can do to honor life and all those who helped us on our path.   Namaste.

A Winter Meditation- the real web, I hope-

Close your eyes and begin to notice your breathing. At first, your breath will come rather fast, as you think of all that has happened in your day.  This is natural - just continue breathing until you have reviewed everything you need to.

Now picture yourself wearing many layers of heavy cloaks.  You can feel the weight of them on your shoulders.  As we continue to breathe, we will begin to drop these cloaks, one by one.  As you drop each cloak, you will feel lighter and lighter.

Breathe and feel the outermost cloak.  It is very heavy.  See what color comes to mind.  This cloak represents all the expectations the outer world has of you.  Let the cloak drop onto the ground and walk away.

The next cloak is comprised of all the expectations you have for yourself in the outside world.  Drop this cloak also, step out of it and walk away.

Feel the third cloak. Note its color.  This one represents any anger or resentment directed toward you or felt towards others by you. Drop it and walk away.

Let the next cloak's color come to you. Let it slip from your shoulders.  You are leaving behind all the physical discomfort your body has felt from wearing all the other cloaks.  Let your body shed this weariness.

Continue this process until you drop all the layers you need to.

Now you feel so much ligher, you can actually feel your Self.  There is  one robe left - the last one.  Its color represents the color your soul feels most comfortable in.  Please leave this on to protect and comfort you throughout the rest of our journey.

***

You are walking along a wintry trail, snow crunching under your feet.  It is sunny and crisp - you feel good.

The light begins to fade into a hazy winter sunset. Clouds of pink and blue are streaked across the sky.  You pull your cloak closer around you and continue walking.

Darkness falls.  It is a night of brilliant stars.  There is a slim silver moon overhead.   You hear a sound like music, but very faintly.  Up ahead the trees seem to form an arched walkway.  You walk beneath them and find they lead to a huge building made of rough-hewn wood.

You open the massive doors.  Inside is the light of many candles, creating a golden glow around the whole room, all the way up to the vaulted ceiling.

In the center of the room sits a circle of people.  They welcome you. Their faces glow in the candlelight.  You sit down and take your place in the circle, joining hands with the people on either side of you.

As you take their hands, you feel the circuit of energy that flows around the circle.  It almost feels like an electric current.  Open your seventh chakra and begin to channel energy through the top of your head and into your hands.  The current gets stronger. Bring in more energy and channel it from your crown chakra to your heart.  From your heart, direct the energy to the center of the circle.

You begin to see something.  It is a huge cup or chalice.  It is filled with Light from your heart chakras.  Allow the Light from your  heart to fill the cup.  Fill it to the brim.  Light is streaming down from above as our Angelic guides help us.

Now let this healing light flow over the brim and over the whole Earth.  Let it be like a balm to  all people, entering their hearts, quelling their fear. Fill it again and let it calm Mother Earth herself, for she is always affected by the emotions of man.

The cup is fading now.  Continue to channel light to the circle from your heart chakras.  The Light in the center has become very beautiful.  You sense a Presence there.

It is the Presence of Peace.

Place what needs healing into this Holy light in the center of the circle.  Relationships between countries.  World leaders. The land itself.The animals.  Place anyone you know who needs healing in the Light.  Take some time.

***

Now, place yourself and your family in the center of the circle, for we must heal our individual lives, too, if we are to heal the world.

Do you feel other groups like this one coming together around the world? See all these circles of peace and healing connected like a web of Light all over the globe.  Strengthen these lines of Light.

Begin to feel a deep peace in your heart, a peace that permeates all your bodies - mental, physical, emotional, and Spiritual.

It is time to close our circle now.  Notice the faces around the circle filled with Divine Light.  Thank all our helpers, seen and unseen who graced us with their energy tonight in the healing circle.  Say your goodbyes.


You walk out of the cathedral into the light of day.  It is a glorious winter morning.  The birds are singing, the sunlight sparkles on the snow. Your heart is filled with hope, joy.

Namaste.

The Holidays

Like all children, I used to love Christmas.  Sparkling lights at night, a glittering field of snow in the daytime, the coziness of looking forward to a special night and day featuring Jesus and Santa respectively. Honoring a miracle birth by singing with others in church, all the while feeling something magical might happen.

It's a little different now. Everyone rushing to buy things, worrying if it is "enough" to satisfy our need to feel "stuffed with stuff."

So let's slow down for a second.

Breathe. Drop back into your body. Oygenate those lungs and cells.

Whew.

Breathe again.

Notice the tension and the heaviness you may have been feeling,
 as if you were wearing alot of fancy, uncomfortable clothes.

Picture these gaudy costumes dropping off you, falling to the ground.

What's left?  Just you without the entrapments of the material side of the holidays. A core of peace.

What was the purpose of winter festivals in the past?

It was dark,and cold and they were aware they might not survive.

They needed a way to assure themselves that the spring would come again.  A way to create that light in each other, by coming together with family and friends to kindle the belief that they would make it through.

So, breathe again and go deep into the core of darkness. Deeper still. Then find that spark of hope.

Find the belief that we can create the world anew, in a way that  offers physical and spiritual nurturance to all.

Fan the flame in your heart, see its warmth expand, along with the image of a more positive world.

Whatever way you can do this in your life, do it, for we are responsible for our world and what we create.

I hope together we can offer more peace, joy and compassion to all those we spend time with during this season. Namaste.  

And of course, enjoy the lights!

Fear of flying and other things

What is it with these middle-age fears? Situations that we didn't think twice about suddenly loom as things we anticipate with dread.

Quite a few years ago I became afraid of flying in airplanes.  Not because of an incident, just the whole idea of hurtling through space in this big hunk of metal, beautiful as it may be.

I reasoned with myself, berated myself, tried to joke myself out of it. My family was sick of watching me grip the armpads of my seat as if I could control the flight.

I told myself it was a reasonable fear.  True, but didn't help.

I remembered I used to like flying and began to watch the take-offs and landings as if it were fun and exciting.  Worked a little.

I started breathing, slowing down my heartbeat.  All that fear can't be good for your body.

Then I hit upon an idea.  I watched the calmness between the bumps and shivers.  Reminding myself that going through a rough patch is just that- and the smoothness will come again.

Kind of like life.

One flight we were on recently was actually really bad- thunderstorms over Texas. I was tense, but then something happened- I just let go- I didn't care anymore.

The pilot knew what he was doing ( or maybe it was a combination of skill and luck! Again, like life).  We landed safely.

It was a great feeling- to just give up the fear. I hope I am like that from now on-  but I probably  will experience times of holding my breath.

So, for now I will continue to fly as I have all my life.  Sometimes you just have to keep doing it and the fear works its way out of you.

Now, to tackle that fear of going to the dentist.  Another one I never had until recently-  Oh, Joy, something else to work on!

Get outta here, Fear- I don't have time for you!

Clearing your house

My house was in a funk. Stagnant energy from life events I wanted to move on from was everywhere.

I decided to clear it.  I began to clap loudly into every corner of every room, banishing or scaring out the dull energy.

Soon I was half-dancing as I was clapping throughout the rooms.
It felt good.

Afterward, a quietness descended, a peacefulness.

Then I went to each room playing a harp-like instrument, beautiful sound, really, enticing the good, creative energy back in. I even went outside and played to the birds- they seemed to like it.

It worked! 

My version of smudging, I guess, without the smoke.

I have also, when feeling I was beginning a new year ( which  could be anytime), opened all and I mean all the windows and doors, chasing old energy out and inviting vitality in.

Sometimes you have to work on your environment as well as your body and mind.  This exercise is kind of Wiccan, I guess, which I have never studied, but probably instinctively enters into any energy work. All is valid, maybe I will look into it.

So, this may be a frivolous post, but one that I needed and hopefully might  be useful to you.

May your day be a good one- Lia