Friday, August 30, 2013

Letting go of the kids

To continue the theme of letting our children go, sometimes you have to go farther and believe in them.

We need to step back and literally pull our energy back from them so they can feel, think, and experience without our hovering attention.

How can they spread their wings if you are crushing those wings?

I know this is hard, but it is healthier.  You don't know all they will achieve. 

And guess what? Hopefully they will be on this planet without us someday, happy, healthy, living their lives.

So, offer advice, help them, but don't send the them the message that they are not safe without you.

Give them a chance to trust other people, make friends and find their own way to cope, to struggle and to shine-

Many blessings to us all -  it's a tricky job! and a privilege.

Of course, consult with learning specialists, counselors and  teachers - they are there to help if your child needs it.

Monday, August 19, 2013

Sending your child to school- !?

As Fall approaches, some of us are sending  our children off to school- kindergarten, a new year in another school, college- someplace without us!

This is tough but necessary.  The main thing to remember is- you are the parent----be brave!

You can cry afterward but present a "stiff upper lip" to your children. Send them with joy.

You want to empower them, not cripple them with fear.

They can do it! You did it. In fact, they can handle it better than you think they can.

So, Take a deep, deep breath and a big sigh. Release that top layer of fear.

Ground, center yourself.  Bring in a pillar of light from above your head.  Let it go all the way through you, to your feet.  Let it be wide enough to completely surround your body - a couple of feet wide.

Let it calm you, ground you, center you.  Be a pillar of strength.

Do this several times a day if you like, and don't forget to breathe.

Now, imagine, for a moment, that you see your child standing a few feet away from you.  Imagine they have a pillar of light surrounding them.  ( They do)

See how awesome they look all lit up?  Their light will grow brighter as they discover that they can succeed in many areas of their life. Exciting!

Trust in this.  Remember when you were a child and you were alright.

Your children are individuals on their own path, as are you.  You can support them, but you can't live every second of their lives for them and they don't want you to.

 From a distance, ask your child's guides to strengthen the light around him/her.  It will make you feel better.

What will you do with the extra head space you have as your child goes on his/her adventure? Imagine this time filled with nurturing for you, or perhaps accomplishing some goal you have been putting off.

When your child returns, you will both have new experiences to share.  So take it easy and good luck with this sometimes difficult passage.  Blessings to you- Lia

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Finding Fear

One day I was meditating, and as I was healing  my body I discovered fears I didn't know I had. Perhaps from articles on health in the paper or from the news.  I found I had fear of certain diseases lodged in my body.

I decided to root them  out as I went. I did not  want them just lingering there. So come with me and we'll do this exercise together.  Even if you've had health problems, you don't want to leave these fears there.

So, breathe and relax, letting go of everything else around you.
Start to calm your body.

Picture yourself on a beach that you love, all alone.  Lie down on the sand ( or on a towel). Close your eyes and listen to your breath.

Align your breath with the sound of the waves on the beach.

On the outbreath, start to release each fear you find in your body, starting with your feet.  As you find these fears, name them, for then they become conscious and you can release them.

Go into your knees, your upper legs, the base of your spine, your gut- any organs associated with the area you are in , go inside and find the fear, the name of the disease, and release.

Your lungs, your heart, your breasts, your throat.

Take your time with this- clear it all out. Breath and release.

Fear of certain cancers, fear of a heart attack, and when you get to your brain, please release fear of dementia!

You don't have to live in fear of your own body. 

Banish those fears- reclaim your body for yourself. If you want to say this out loud, go ahead- " I now banish fear of-  ! Get out!"

Now, let a wave from the beach come up to where you are lying.  Let it wash over your whole body, drenching you, cleansing you completely of these fears.

Jump in the ocean and swim, letting the saltwater neutralize any leftover residue you don't need.

You are free,  you are alive, you are well.

Come ashore and let the sun dry you- relax and trust in your own wellness.  Trust in life,  just for now.

This has been a valuable exercise for me,but  I claim no miracle cures by participating in this- and of course, follow the advice of your physician.  It just feels so good to be free of fear, for however long it lasts-  Namaste.


You might suppose, being a person who meditates, that I am calm in most situations.  Whoa- far from it-  while I am naturally quiet, slightly introverted and a dreamer, I could hardly call myself calm.

I think, honestly, I took to meditation for the imagery I received, the guidance and the way it helped me to manage my over-sensitivity.

Getting really quiet in my body and opening my mind to guidance has helped me function better than I would without it.

Practicing daily for brief amounts of time, even it is just grounding and letting energy flow through the chakras is a great help. Longer sessions with others multiplies the benefits.

The clarity spills over into the rest of your life and you become more creative, in  touch with deeper issues, and aligned with a sense that you are being guided, if you ask, by a power greater than yourself, or, if you prefer, guided by your Higher self.

The sensitivity becomes a positive instead of painful.  A gift instead of a burden.

So I hope the techniques given here help everyone because we are all dealing with our own forms of stress and joy every day.  What a trip! One that we are lucky to be on-